Date: 2018-02-15 14:24
I was dating this guy I was working with for slightly over a month. It went extremely fast and was very intense- lots of butterflies and passion and warm fuzzies all around. Not all of that time was completely awesome- there were times he 8767 d commit to something and back out after the last minute with an excuse like he had no gas or money to come see me. He would also text me that he felt I didn 8767 t really want what he wanted- a future, white picket fence, etc. I tried to explain (in person) that until we had time to develop to that level that I could say I wanted that (white picket fence) in my life in the future, but I didn 8767 t want to say or commit immediately to something that might turn out to be a lie. We got into a fight a few days after one of those conversations and what was also after a period of time where we didn 8767 t see much of each other aside from work- five days, actually. He couldn 8767 t make it to my house over the weekend for the aforementioned gas/money issue when I tried to make plans, and it turned out I had plans with my best friend (and roommate- no, not a guy) and an out of town guest staying at our place for most of the rest of the week. Anyway, the argument ended when I told him that if he couldn 8767 t respect my autonomy when it came to decisions about my health and body then he could get the f*** out. He took my word for it and told me fine, he was gone. I called and texted him throughout the next day to try and talk things out, but he ignored every attempt to contact him. I was devastated, and also a bit pissed. He texted me after I had already gone to bed later that night. I went out of town the day and didn 8767 t respond to anything he sent me throughout the day until I got home and we proceeded to get into another argument via text. It wasn 8767 t resolved in any kind of manner. He came into work the next day and proceeded to completely ignore that I existed, and close to the end of my shift he went to his (not mine) supervisor and proceeded to accuse a co-worker and I of sabotaging his work. I can honestly say we did no such thing- I didn 8767 t even mention that we had been dating to anyone, let alone that we had broken up. People still knew, mostly cause he couldn 8767 t quit talking about it. Anyway, he walked out of his shift that night. The next night he did acknowledge I existed, and I tried to respond minimally and civilly. He ended up walking out of that shift too, claiming that he was being made fun of every time he entered mine and my-co-workers primary work area. That wasn 8767 t true either- we were joking around and laughing, but not about him at all. They fired him after that. He texted me a day or after basically deriding my character and maintaining his accusations, no matter how much I tried to claim innocence. During this whole 8775 bad 8776 period I had intended to attempt to talk and possibly reconcile with him, but never got a chance while defending my integrity. Another period of time passed- about a week or so, and then he called me asking for some of things back, and I agreed to return them and again attempted to try to talk things out, but he was still convinced I had more or less caused his losing his job. Another week went by, and I texted him merry christmas- responded saying he missed me and knew the breakup was his fault, but made no mention of getting back together, just said he hoped I was doing well and he didn 8767 t want ruin my day by saying anything else. I texted back and tried to express that I wasn 8767 t angry at him and just wanted to know what had happened. That ended with a long text by me that went unanswered until a *censored* over a week later when he texted me asking if I wanted my things. I said yes, and my roommate and I went up to get my things, which he suddenly couldn 8767 t find. He admitted the whole dang thing was his fault and thought I could do better than him- I told him I didn 8767 t want to do that and that I really had just wanted to talk things out if possible. He kissed me a couple different times and the night ended on a hopeful note, though I still didn 8767 t have my things. He texted me on my way back home that he had found my things. I called the next night after I got off work and asked if I could pick them up- he sighed and said it was last time he was gonna see me. I told him that depended, but he hung up at that point. I got my things, and he told me to have a goodnight. I left, and circled back around and asked him if he really thought I gave a s*** about the 8766 stuff 8767 - I had made no attempt to get it back and wrote it off as lost. He said he had just taken a job nearer to where I lived so he could see me more easily, and at that point I thought it prudent to mention my roommate had banned him from the house- she owns it and I pay rent, so really, it was up to her. At everything kinda dissolved after that, he said that in that case nothing could go anywhere with us, and accused me of putting myself on 8766 the victims side 8767 of the situation bringing up the whole ordeal from work again. When I asked for clarification about what exactly he meant he said, I quote, 8775 this is bulls***, you can 8767 t even admit it! Goodnight. 8776 And literally left me outside in the cold. I left after that and later texted him asking if he still wanted to be with me despite all the stuff that 8767 s happened up to that point. No answer for a few days now- honestly, I just want to know if I should expect us to be able to work things out or not. I feel heartbroken and like I 8767 m being played at the same time, but I 8767 d take the chance if it were presented all the same. We had what I feel was a highly passionate connection while we were together and I was beginning to fall in love with him. What do you think the chances of getting back together are?
Why do you women stay at all with such a psychopath? I do not as one. I keep walls up and do not allow that kind of man or woman to be in my life in any capacity. I identify that kind of person immediately. And rarely do I allow that kind of person to remain at all in my life. In peoples psychopathy they thought that being one to me was cool? How cool is a psychopath these days? Especially while they are overt not funny, not cool kinds of psychopaths to people. Don 8767 t they require anti psych otics? Incarceration? Institutionalization? Why do you women put up with that kind of man? How do you live with him? Why make excuses for him? You label him as psychopath. You make statements behind his back of what he is. Do you think that a terminal psychopath is not going to be a psychopath miraculously one day? Or what about that same kind of woman that is a psychopath in your life? Is it not better to rid yourself of that kind of person than try to deal with that kind of person in your life? When they lie, cheat, steal, threaten, etc are you always going to make excuses for that psychopath and become that psychopath for themselves? Are you that kind of self entitled person as psychopath? A simple, can I use your daughter 8767 s grill and propane to cook my lobster? Would have been fairly easy for him to do. Instead him stealing that propane was appropriate for that psychopath to enter her property. Her belongings while she was at work trying to afford it. Who is this man to her? Her neighbor. Is that not a commandment? Why does he get special priveys in his religion of the, Thou shall not whatever and her not? For he is man? And in his bible it states what kind of woman from 7555 years ago that she is not? That is psychopathy of that man. She has made statements to me that he is a psychopath upon her. Want him? He is single. He is educated. He is terminal psychopath. Want to own him? Fix him? How desperate are you as women? He is handsome. He can be charming. He is thief. He is mocker of women. He is overt. He is non violent upon my daughter. He is not threatener. He is non stalker. He is non violent upon my daughter. Who is entitled to allow him to become more to my daughter or myself to entitle him to become more of a psychopath predator upon her in his entitlement? His Jesus? I have been his Jesus to him. I do not entitle him. Statistically, how many men or women have entered into someone elses property and called that property their own when it is not and caused that person to become enraged enough to murder that psychopath all in the name of their God? When you put your hand upon your heart and you start that American oath in God that you trust, try to picture yourself as that kind of psychopath as you hold that heart. For I am that woman who has held your heart in my hands. As psychopath thought pattern I could have instead crushed it in my hands instead. And ended your life by the power and strength that I have and you have not. A choice. It is only a simple organ. It is not an organ that cannot be stopped easily. By means of my psychopathy to not massage it back to beating. Or the entitlement of beating it until it stops as psychopath. Which are you?
So me and my ex- bf were together for over a year and half. We moved in after 5 months dating with his sister and her bf close to the end of the lease we started arguing, then we moved in with his friend and his gf. All he started to do was nap a lot and play his computer with his friend all the time. He cut down on being sexual active with me and we would get into petty arguments over stupid stuff. We only had a 6 month lease with them. Then we moved in with my mother she needed help and I know he didn 8767 t want to but be did it because my mother needed it. Well ever since we moved in are fights became more frequent and he started to get even less sexual active with me. It hurt and I would get mad at him all the time and we would dight all the time. Then it got worse when he completely stopped being sexual active. In not obbsessing over sex but that 8767 s what two people do to show emotion and physical attraction. Well he barely talked to me and I had to start begging for him to even hangout with me. Are lease was almost up and we were planning on moving out together then one night I asked are we getting a place together still and he kept saying idk idk then I asked him do you still want to be with me and he said idk ( I was hurt by this ) so I asked him again a yes or no answer and he pauses and quietly said no. I asked him if he could please leave and he did. Then the next day he grabbed some clothes and his computer and told me to give him time. I told him over a month ago that I loved him and he couldnt say it back he didnt say anything just that he knew I loved 8767 m so heart broken I didn 8767 t talk to him for 9 days then finally I couldnt wait any longer to talk. We met up and talked he started getting mad and yelling at me saying how come I didnt see it or why it took so long for me to be willing to change and not get so mad all the time ( I forgot to add that he 8767 s not really emotional and doesn 8767 t talk about him feelings a lot he keeps alot to him self) he got upset and startes to get out of my car and I grabbed his arm crying and pleading please don 8767 t go and he said he had to. I about panicked I hopped out of my car into his and sat on his lap crying my eyes out telling him I loved him and he means so much to me he said he cares about me a lot and I was like I love you and he said I love you to for the first time ever. I said I was sorry it didnt go the way things were he said he needs time for him self. He needs to work on things alone I asked why cant we work together and he said no he has to do this by himself. I was so heart broken I sat on his lap crying telling him how much I care about him and telling him I dont want you to do this and he said he didnt want to do this but he had to. He told me we can still be friends and that we will hangout I also asked him if once in a while he would come stay the night (just lay there not do anything) and he said yes. I told him maybe its best if were friends and work back to the way we were and he said yes. He told me he has hope for is later but not right now. (I asked him if he missed me the 9 days we didn 8767 t talk and he said yes.)He said he had to go and I grabbed him and hugged him and told him I love him so much and he was like I love you so much to. He hugged me tightly back and I asked him if he could wait till I left first and he said yes. That night I texted him told him I loved him and that I will always be here for him he replied same goes for you I hope you know that.
I havent talked to him since then and this happened saturday im so hurt and I cant stop crying. He told me give him a week before we start talking again. (How do I deal with this???)I dont know what to do I can 8767 t stop thinking about him and I keep checking my phone for him to text me. Does he miss me? He told me hes there for me but how can I talk to him if its about us he knows how I feel and he still left in hurt so much its killing me I havent been able to eat or sleep properly. I don 8767 t wanna wait but I know I have to I cant get him out of my mind. His close friend told me we were around each other to much and said we just need time apart. Everyone I talk to tells me give him space he misses me and thinks we will get back together. Its so hard from one point seeing him every day talking every day to nothing at all. I want him back so bad. It hurts so much and I don 8767 t know what to do all I can do is give him time and wait for him to talk to me again. Please any advise or what you think will help me.
Omg..I 8767 m thrilled I found this. I 8767 m about to move out of a house me and my soon to be ex boyfriend got around 8 months ago. I absolutely KNOW FOR A FACT he 8767 s a psychopath now. We 8767 ve been together for almost *censored*ears now. I 8767 m just at the end of my rope with the every day bullshit with him. I have 8 *censored*s,one who is a year old,and his. I have two older *censored*ren,who he likes to constantly put down,pick on and punish. He 8767 s a sick man. Nothing is ever his fault,he twists everything to be about him. He 8767 s always a victim..of course I 8767 m the bad guy. I 8767 m worthless to him. The verbal abuse is unbearable. He puts all of his personal business on Facebook (like our fights and trash talking on me) in hopes to get some type of attention or pity from people. Hell lie to his familys faces to get them to take his side.
Some of them believe him too! He fabricates stories so I 8767 m always the wrong one,and he 8767 s always the poor thing being tortured by me. I constantly apologize to this man,but nothing,and I mean NOTHING is ever good enough! This guy managed to get me and my *censored*s evicted from our previous home,I don 8767 t own a car now..and I 8767 m about to lose my job because if I don 8767 t kiss his ass constantly..he won 8767 t allow me to use his car. Everything is HIS (car,house,*censored*,money) that 8767 s why I can 8767 t stand to be here any longer. His ex warned me too,shame I didn 8767 t listen to her sooner. The only trait he doesn 8767 t have on this list is he NEVER APOLOGIZES. NEVER ADMITS HE 8767 S EVER WRONG. its all me. Even when he hurt me,its somehow my fault. Man,can he twist things around. I feel crazy,but now I see it is him.
He also blames me for him being unhappy. Says he feels unloved and unwanted. Even when I make a true effort to make him happy,its obviously not good enough. Besides that,he tells ME he doesn 8767 t want or love me. He says this daily. U think I 8767 ve been that low? No. He 8767 s just plain miserable. He always will be. And Omg,can he hold onto the past. Any small mistake or wrong I have done,ill never live it down. Every time we fight,that 8767 s his famous up the past. Even if its been years,he still feels the need to keep making me feel like shit for any *censored* mistake I 8767 ve ever made. It 8767 s sick,because I never do that to him.
Anyways,its been hard with *censored* family and friends I have left,he 8767 s turned everyone else against me,or pushed them out of my life. I have few resources,but dammit,I 8767 m determined to get away from this madness. It 8767 s not healthy for me or my *censored*s. We deserve to be happy too. I can 8767 t wait to be rid of the monster that slowly tore me down
Wowwww is all I can say! I dated someone who had the majority of these characteristics. My friends and family told me this repeatedly but 8775 I love him and he will change 8776 No he will not. We were together about a year. It was a constant mind game. I was scared of what to say or what to comment or to talk about due to the fact what I would say would get twisted and used against me, in some way or another. I never got many apologies but more of 8775 well you know I 8767 m an asshole but not all the time 8776 . It could be something very minor or just because he was having a bad day, he would take it out on me. It would start with just like a simple question and no matter what my answer was it was wrong and started a fight. Which usually led to him calling me a fat whore, or a stupid bitch. But when I wouldn 8767 t respond to that (name calling doesn 8767 t bother me anymore, it used to upset me now it 8767 s just like okay whatever) he would say something about my *censored*s. What hateful mother fuckers they were or what not. And he has made me leave in the middle of the night, get the fuck out don 8767 t ever come back I fucking hate you, if you don 8767 t leave I 8767 ll call the cops and have your fat ass removed. And it 8767 s like I got to where I knew what would set him off, particular things that would happen I knew before he even started cussing me he was mad. Sometimes it would start with the silent treatment then proceed into the hatefulness. But he has put his hands on me a few times, and said things like I hope your heart stops beating, wouldn 8767 t nothing make me happier than reading your obituary in the news paper. Then a few hours later I was the love of his life again and he couldn 8767 t live without me.
I would dread a schedule change at work, especially if had forgotten to tell him until like the day before. He always said I was creating doubt. I make myself look guilty.
He checked my phone, usually when I didn 8767 t know, although I caught him once and I was like if you want to look at it just ask instead of getting caught. I wasn 8767 t allowed on social media websites although he can be. He has all of my passwords to everything but yet I have none of his.
Some of the things he says just doesn 8767 t add up or they contradict themselves, especially if it makes him look like he is right.
What really has hurt me the most is when I was having tough times, like you know just sad or upset he would either start in about something or just literally turn his back on me. Although he said I didn 8767 t know how to communicate. Why would I communicate? Everything I would say would be wrong. And he never believed me, unless I had proof or someone else could back it up.
And of course nobody would ever think he 8767 s this way because he is funny and so sweet in public. He is two different people I swear! The sweetest happiest man that can make me the happiest girl in the world, to the most hateful person I have ever met.
The last time we had an argument he choked me and had me against the wall, I saw the weirdest look in his eyes, one that I haven 8767 t seen or paid attention to before?, and it scared me a *censored*. I hurried and left.
A few other things that go hand in hand is the control, wanting to know where you are at all times, and things like well if you would 8767 ve done what I said or I told you to do then you wouldn 8767 t be having any problems. Which is control do what I tell you to do.
Anyway I could go on and on and on. The things I 8767 ve had said and done to me are not too short of omg who would 8767 ve even thought of that. I am not going to lie, I still love him and miss him a lot. But it 8767 s a vicious cycle and it doesn 8767 t take long for the bad to totally out weigh the good. I 8767 m just glad I realized it now instead of many years down the road.
I also stumbled across this site by accident but I am so glad I did! It totally helped me to realize what was wrong with him because I did think for a long time I was going crazy! Thanks for this article and all of these posts.
My boyfriend has all but two signs of a psychopath. My phone has been messing up so sometimes I don 8767 t get text messages on time one day I didn 8767 t get his messages until 65pm. He texted bombed me freaking out thinking I was mad at him and called me 9 times. I answered and I could tell he was drunk. He kept asking me why I didn 8767 t answer where have I been, ect. He told me he was coming over the next day and hung up. The next day there was cuts on his arms. I asked him what happened and he said nothing. I knew he cut him self I had friends from *censored* who were depressed and done it. He finally answered and said he punished his self. Because of me not answering him. He freaks out on me all the time. I started noticing after I thought I could have been pregnant. (I wasn 8767 t which was good I was just a few days late on my period ) he said to me angrily I 8767 m still going into the military next year and my life will go to hell if you are. There I felt horrible, I 8767 m not ready for *censored*s I was scared and he made it worse. Sometimes even when I don 8767 t want to he forces me to give him blow jobs. He is so strong and makes me feel so weak. He would always push me on the bed and sit on me and do everything in his power to get what he wants. After that he would get off me and kiss me and say I 8767 m sorry babe and that he loves me. He also tells me that I 8767 m not allowed to go anywhere by myself and he rather be the one to go with me because I 8767 m weak and I could get *censored*d. Every time we hangout he excepts sex and when I don 8767 t feel like it (which now I never feel like having sex with him) he gets mad at me and try to get me to have sex by whispering in my ear I know you want to fuck me. And would touch my sweet spots. After awhile of ignoring him he starts crying and apologizing and admits he is a horn dog and it 8767 s my fault for making him feel that way. He keeps telling me stories about all his ex girlfriends cheating on him and how his dad never really cared about him and that his mom hates him and is afraid of him. He says I 8767 m the only one he has and with out me he doesn 8767 t deserve to live another day. Today I found out he was hanging out with his ex that he talks trash about all the time. When I confronted him he said that he only went to the mall with her (we barely went to the mall because he never has money and hates it) once. He knew I was mad. I confronted him about the time I was going to a party and didn 8767 t tell him and he said it was just as bad as lying and was a total dick about it saying that I would get drunk and fuck other guys. so I didn 8767 t go to the party. But he could lie to me and hide the fact that he was hanging out with her. He pretty much keeps telling me that he doesn 8767 t trust me and thinks I 8767 m going to cheat on him. But he would say I don 8767 t trust other men around my girl. I keep telling him I 8767 m not his ex girlfriends and I 8767 m not that kind of girl dude seriously I waited until I was 76 and I gave it up to you! I could never cheat. All he could say back is they all do and then say I 8767 m not comparing you to them you are. Plus sometimes he makes me feel so stupid. I don 8767 t know what to do because I fell hard for him at the beginning gave him everything and what 8767 s sad is we only been together for about 5 months. I thought he was the one and I was wrong I think it was lust and I was punished for it. I mean sometimes he is so sweet and spoils me. And other times he makes me feel like I 8767 m trapped in a room with a psycho And used.